How to be a powerful ‘black’ person – summarised principles part 3
This is a continuation of the first posts, How to be a powerful ‘black’ person parts 1 & 2.
- It’s possible to see out worst problems as our greatest opportunities, as long as we’re willing to go outside our traditional patterns of perception. There are 2 ways to do this:
- Context reframing = showing how one behaviour that’s bad/ upsetting in one situation is good/ pleasing in another.
- Content reframing = taking any event and altering its meaning to you.
- Reframing can also be done on an interpersonal level; that’s pretty much the whole point of advertising.
- Note: if trying to change someone’s behaviour, whether your own or someone else’s, it’s important to ensure the new behaviour preserves or outdoes the benefits of the old.
- Anchors = sensory stimuli linked to a specific mental state. It can be a phrase, word, touch, object, anything, and can affect any of the senses. With conscious anchoring you can produce a constant mechanism with which to put you in a desirable state, and produce results far greater than the effort needed to do them!
HOW TO CREATE AN EFFECTIVE ANCHOR:
- Have the person in a fully congruent state (INTENSITY),
- Provide the chosen stimulus at the peak of that state (TIMING),
- Ensure the stimulus is unique (UNIQUENESS),
- Keep practising it precisely to make it work (REPLICATION).
FOR ANCHORING:
- Identify specifically what you want an anchor for and what state would best help you to achieve it,
- Identify your current state,
- Use verbal and nonverbal communications to achieve the desired state,
- Determine when you’re at the peak of that state* and give the anchor,
- Test it by changing state then using the anchor to ensure it produces the desired state again.
* by noting your breath, eye motions, posture, skin tone, muscle tension, pupil size & lower lip size.
Note: Anchors can be stacked, strengthened by combining multiple desired states in 1 anchor!
Note 2: Anchoring happens constantly (via media, news, etc), therefore being aware of how to make your own can protect you from ‘random’ mental fluctuations.
Note 3: You can use more than 1 anchor simultaneously. For example, if you’ve been locked in a negative state you can use one to oppose it by triggering it at the same time, so when either anchor is used (+ve or -ve) your brain has a choice. It will almost always choose the +ve.
- Prioritising your values & putting them into hierarchies is the way to judge success & progression properly.
- Differentiate between ends values (emotional states to have or avoid, the driving forces of all behaviour) & means values (instruments used to achieve them).
ASSIGNMENT:
- What’s most important to you in your life?
- Rearrange your answers in order of importance/ priority.
- What states would you most want to avoid?
- Rearrange your answers in order of importance/ priority.
- Examine your rules for your values (what makes you feel like you’ve fulfilled a value or not?).
- Make new rules to achieve +ve values and avoid -ve ones.
Remember that knowledge is only POTENTIAL power. ACTION is what makes the difference.
KEYS TO WEALTH & HAPPINESS:
- Learn how to handle frustration.
- Learn how to handle rejection.
- Learn how to handle financial pressure.
- Learn how to handle complacency.
- Always give more than you expect to get.
Note: Success is a process & a way of life.
- One constant of modernity is persuasion. That’s what advertising is all about! Using anchors for visual & auditory, & maybe even kinaesthetic.
- Learn to give value first, that’s the best way to persuade someone. What can you do for others, now?
- All human problems are behavioural problems.
- To really make a difference, learn to be a leader by learning to persuade people. Keep in mind that the world is run by persuaders.
- Unlimited power is the power to use what happens to you to your advantage, favourable & unfavourable.
- Be around people who inspire you to improve.