If I could be assed to sign up to yet another social media (Disqus) I would’ve replied:
1- Learn to write properly. Your spelling is atrocious.
2- At 5 years old, no-one has the maturity to understand what the mother is going through because you’re still learning.
3- If you’d read the whole thing, you’d see that she tried to reconcile with her mother when she was 27. But her birth mother rejected her, outright saying she doesn’t like her. It’s not Sil Lai’s responsibility to understand her, it’s the mother’s responsibility to tell her. Since she refused to back then, it’s unrealistic to expect her to ever do so.
4- Give examples of when she was vilifying her. There are none in the article so I’m interested to see how you got that conclusion.
5- Your words sound like something a paedophile or paedophile sympathiser would say. Blame the child for the parents’ bad behaviour. If you’re a parent yourself, you don’t deserve to be. I’m preparing a poem specifically about people like you.
Yes I am being judgmental. I don’t believe in being nonjudgmental. This is an issue I feel really strongly about, because I understand and have personally experienced what it means to be unwanted by your family. Fair enough most people don’t have that experience, but to think it never happens or it’s somehow the child’s fault… such a person deserves no mercy.