This is Part 3 of The 7 Personality Types summarised. As explained there, this post will explain the inspiration roles in detail.
Servers are the perennial caretakers, always ready to lend a hand. Or two. Or three, if they had more. These people love to help and support others however they can, and for this reason have the most chances for personal fulfilment and are in highest demand everywhere. (Just as well they’re also the most numerous at about 30% of the global population)
The term server originally meant a priest’s assistant, which may explain why people of this personality get along with priest personalities best (see below). Although their aid usually is aimed at individuals, servers also like to be part of a greater good. This often involves bringing people together; family members, friends, colleagues or neighbours. It’s pretty much because of servers that “community spirit” exists. However, because they want everyone to get along and favour close-knit environments, they can be stifling to those who have different pursuits. They can also be very nosy and tenacious in weeding out dissidents. This is best expressed in the Japanese proverb:
One of the most defining traits of a server is their warm welcoming smile and soft eyes. Even if not strikingly gorgeous, there’s something about them that makes them inherently likeable. They prefer simplicity in their dress and mannerisms, and tend to prefer neutral colours like grey – or a uniform in the workplace. Even shopping itself can be painful, as they find it hard to receive rather than give, and they’re proud of being able to spend little. They’re typically noticeably short even compared to their siblings, and tend to eat little and drink little if at all. Server males come off as unmasculine but are well-liked in male company anyway, while females conform comfortably to the feminine stereotype of being demure and eager to please. They’re also houseproud, so you’d be hard-pressed to find any dirt or untidiness if you were to visit them. Besides, they’d be too busy looking after you to let you notice anyway!
Unfortunately they’re also the most prone to falling ill, potentially because of their work (if they work in a hospital or otherwise around ailing people) but mostly due to their overwork and self-neglect. Because they prioritise others they tend to ignore their own needs, and even harbour a degree of hatred at their bodies. Worse, they feel complaining makes them a burden so will ignore symptoms and refuse to see a doctor until they’re damn near unable to walk and talk! At the philosophical perspective this won’t be an issue anymore, ’cause they’ll have learned the importance of looking after themselves – PHEW!
Obviously the relationship-oriented perspective suits them best. However, philosophically-oriented servers are among the most trustworthy and approachable people, as well as capable leaders who won’t abuse their control and power.
Having extremely high capacity for hard work, admin and interpersonal skills, servers thrive in almost any job. However they’ll be happiest where they can combine these skills and serve a cause they approve of – and be appreciated. They also like to be a personal assistant to the one they see as the main person, hence the typical boss-secretary relationship. They’re especially at home as teachers, doctors, family doctors, complementary medicine practitioners, diplomats, mediators, facilitators, accountants, family lawyers, personal assistants, and anywhere in the social service sector. They have no problem starting from the bottom and taking on extra work. However, their dislike for too much attention may mean one of two things happen:
- They get overlooked for promotion or recognition for their going above and beyond the call of duty,
- They get over-promoted. Servers do need a degree of control over the environment but don’t like to be in charge, so to be put in control of everything may be too much to handle.
Conversely, servers sometimes overestimate their interpersonal skills, thinking they’re helping when they’re actually butting in. They can strike up conversation with anyone, and if you hear a stranger greet you on the bus or train they’re most likely one of these. Even if they’re highly intellectual and have the philosophical perspective, they prefer to talk about people & real life rather than theories & abstract ideas. Unless they have a sage secondary role they’re not renowned for humour, and like jokes to be clean and impersonal. Sages you have been warned.
When in love, servers are the most sincerely devoted people. They will shower you with personalised gifts and compliments. Server women especially make very good spouses and often end up with rich & high-profile men, while server men are more endearing than most other men and have the least issues doing domestic duties. Servers usually enjoy children and the messy tasks that accompany looking after them. Counterintuitively, servers aren’t necessarily ignorant of their attractiveness – or of how to use it to get the wo/man they want. However, sex isn’t their strong point as their attitude toward all bodily needs & pleasures is somewhat… restricted. If they’re mentally well-adjusted (i.e. not in the negative pole – see below) they won’t put up with being taken for granted. If they issue an ultimatum they will follow through, which will be a huge jolt to those who thought them incapable of standing up for themselves!
As parents, there are pretty much only two things servers do wrong:
- Invasiveness into every aspect of their children’s lives,
- Cowing to the demands of bossier offspring, or doting on them.
Server parents feel the pain of “empty-nest” syndrome most strongly so Puttick advises them to prepare for it WELL ahead of time. As in years or decades. As children, servers are the quiet adorable ones, not crying/ throwing tantrums/ keeping mummy & daddy awake at night, helping the parents around the house, and in teenage they’re the least likely to actively rebel. At school they’ll likely be the teacher’s pet (even if not academically inclined, but just because they get work done on time, listen in class and don’t disrupt lessons – like Sages & Warriors are most likely to). Boys may get bullied in rougher schools but are good at finding a warrior/ king to protect them, while girls find it easy to make friends. With artisan and sage friends, server girls get along well because they accept the plain-friend role – and interestingly she can turn the tables by attracting the most sought-after boys. Simply because she’s so genuinely nice.
The positive pole of this role is service. They have the best interpersonal skills and emotional intelligence of all, most able to handle difficult people and alert others to potential threats, strange or changing behaviour. They remember your birthday, anniversaries, and any other significant dates. They know when you’re stressed probably before you do, and have a cup of honey & lemon ready before you asked them.
To be at their best they must be doing it voluntarily, otherwise they can slip into their negative pole of bondage. This may sound “not so bad” to some, but it is just as bad to be a victim as a perpetrator. Servers in the negative pole are prone to being bully magnets, taken for granted, overloaded with tasks, and eventually become a burden to others. They’re never happy, and they feel everything they do is an obligation. It may even reach the stage where they become physically abused. In short, they become slaves in all but name. I’m sure the bad aspects of that won’t be lost on Afro-diasporans. The negative pole can also manifest another way: over-control. They become domineering and take over everything, effectively thinking no-one can do anything as well as them. In the workplace they turn workers against each other with gossip & false rumours, and get away with it because their sociability & connections make it hard to be identified. Even family members aren’t safe from their wrath; anyone is fair game. Because of their ordinal axis the damage won’t be widespread but will be very well-targeted. Plus, in the competing perspective they like to attach themselves to the boss (as that’s how they define success), which’ll make it hard for their victims to expose them without incurring the boss’s displeasure as s/he’ll have been sweet-talked into taking their side.
So beware the pissed-off server!!!
To avoid the negative pole, servers must learn to tend to their own needs and stand up for themselves, and learn when their help isn’t wanted. To best fulfil their potential, servers would do well to learn to receive and ask for what they want, and to attach themselves to people and causes they genuinely like. If they need outside help for this like a psychotherapist, it’s best to have a more analytical and self-centred approach to teach them their own importance. Yes, servers need to be more “selfish” to be at their best!
People of this role are responsible for their society’s morality, values and sense of justice. They display crazy amounts of optimism, faith, vision and sense of purpose. No matter where they are they want to change things for the better. Similar to servers they come alive at the chance to right wrongs, make someone’s life better, and turn distress into relief. They believe in miracles, and have a good eye for seeing someone’s potential and exciting them into actualising it.
Despite the religious (especially Christian) overtones, it must be remembered that this is a personality type not a religious job description. In fact, Western society’s old religious priests have largely been taken over by the sciences, especially psychiatry and psychology as they deal with the human mind.
They often find people will automatically open up to them and tell them their intimate problems and secrets. Even if they didn’t ask! They’re very good at diagnosing people’s issues and coming up with solutions (that doesn’t always translate into doing the same for themselves, however). They feel connected to a higher power of some sort, which is where their energy comes from. Their craving for meaning makes them very appreciative of symbolism, especially with an Artisan secondary role.
Similar to the server’s body hatred, priests have a degree of schizophrenia about themselves. They can feel that everyday life conflicts with their ideals, and guilt may ensue for not living up to them. Sometimes it’s not life that gets in the way, but personal “demons” or discouragement. Even if their higher purpose isn’t at the forefront of their minds 24/7, it will be a permanent undertone. If they don’t discover what that purpose is for them, they feel restless and unsatisfied. Once they find it – whether it’s a personal belief or a movement’s cause – damn near nothing can stop them, and they rise to prominence pretty easily. Plus, their expectation to meet resistance & objections gives them the edge in handling conflicts. Of all roles priests are best at dealing with politics and rallying people to support a cause; gathering signatures for petitions, setting up campaigns and the like are all right up their street. Though they typically prefer big and loud gestures, they know small discreet steps also make for progress. Priests rarely create new ideologies (that’s the scholars’ speciality!); they’d rather create the following around them. The materialism and comfort of Western life doesn’t usually suit them well, as they deal with hardship more easily. However, that could be about to change with the increasing concentration of wealth into the hands of the few, Brexit, the US elections and the exposure of Western foreign policy’s bullshit.
They only make up 5% of the world’s population but they have a disproportionate influence on groups, cultures and even nations. Priests are pretty easy to spot even when they’re trying to be anonymous. Their eyes are very piercing. Their pace is quick as if they’ve always got somewhere else to be. They’re intense, eye-catching and talkative. Even if modestly dressed, quiet and lacking self-confidence, they can still be told apart from servers by their more imposing presence. Women especially have an otherworldly aura. They do dress to impress for the occasion, but like philosophically oriented sages they’re likely to care about the ethical side of their clothing. They tend to be drawn to solid colours and robes.
Again similar to the servers’ body hatred, priests feel somewhat weighed down & uncomfortable with physical needs & pleasures. In the competing perspective they’re likely to go to extremes to “discipline” themselves, like celibacy, fasting, even self-flagellation. Even with a more balanced attitude, they’ll still dabble in health fads like veganism, detox diets, juice diets and colonic irrigation. Unsurprisingly they don’t fear suffering or death. Perhaps surprisingly, though, they do often fear animals!
They tend to like spacious buildings with high ceilings, and at the philosophical perspective they’ll extend their sense of “sacred space” to nature itself.
Jobs they thrive in include counselling, life coaching, community activism, politics, the army (as leaders), music, medicine & healing arts, teaching, psychiatry, public speaking, finance (as advisors) and – wouldn’t you know it – religious leadership. Even in science they can thrive; look at ‘evangelical atheist’ Richard Dawkins. If they become writers they tend to be deemed exceptional for their inspiration. No matter what, they like dealing with many people (that’s the cardinal axis for you). Priests are also very good at seeing the bigger picture and leading people, but unlike kings they don’t like paying attention to detail. Unfortunately if they’re deprived of opportunities and encouragement they tend to think of themselves as shit leaders, especially women. As leaders, though, they rarely need scripts or prompts, and are as charismatic and persuasive as sages.
Also similar to sages, they won’t let a few inconsistencies get in the way of the point they want to make. Facts and evidence are only as good as they are useful to support their point, otherwise they’re easily ignored. By the time the audience has sifted through their smokescreen of justifications, it’s old news as the priest has already moved on to another topic! This tends to enrage more serious roles, especially scholars who are the most likely ones to call out anyone’s bullshit. Because of their drive for purpose and meaning, priests aren’t well-known for their sense of comedy unless they’ve learned some sophistication.
The easiest way to communicate with priests is as their follower, supporter or admirer. Intimate talks aren’t their forté, the disadvantage of being a cardinal role, but they are turned on by deep topics rather than small talk. Good friends will tell them when they’re being too preachy, and they’ll usually take the hint and tone it down.
When it comes to romance, priests often get more attention than they even want. Their kindness, intensity and charm can be mistaken for romantic interest, and for this reason they often have a trail of broken hearts behind them. Ironically they have strong sex drives, which they’ll either indulge in with reckless abandon or put on complete lockdown. Luckily, they also see sex as a healing tool and will keep the partner’s pleasure in mind. To most people priests are irresistible, and when they’re in love they’re as devoted as servers. Their challenge is to keep that passion going long-term rather than make the partner feel guilt for not living up to their standards. Ultimately their mission comes first, so the partner will have to be on-board with it to stay in his/her life. However, with a tiny bit of effort the priest can keep the partner satisfied without even knowing it!
Comically, priest parents and priest children can fight pretty intensely, especially if the parent has a competing or rule-bound perspective. The parent sees the kid as a sinner in need of correction or a potential new recruit, while the children will zealously resist and refuse to be brainwashed. With the philosophical and relationship perspectives parents will cherish and nurture them beautifully, but can get bored and distant once the novelty wears off. While the priest parent is fulfilling her/his mission (read: absent) the children typically adore them still, but it comes back to bite her/him later. Philosophical priest parents are among the best, giving the kids an ideal mix of attention and freedom. Priest children show their role young, showing great sensitivity to others’ pain, spirituality and independence – as well as guilt for failing themselves if they’re strongly religious.
In school they tend to act more like adults than children, making it hard for them to fit in. If they’re not academically minded they’ll either doss about (if they’ve not found their purpose) or ditch school entirely (if they have). Even so young their destiny takes priority. However, they can learn to play the game of seduction from noticing their appeal to others.
The positive pole of the priest is compassion. The negative pole zeal comes about when they’re stressed. Though it comes from their sincere desire to help people, it manifests as thinking they know what’s best for you and you’d better do it. They may claim they can directly converse with God so they are qualified to be his representative! Even if you don’t want their help they’ll give it and give it and give it ’til you finally take it or tell them to fuck off (I personally attest to that). They’re worst at the competing and rule-bound perspectives, leading by superstition, intimidation, guilt and suppression of disagreement. They can even be cruel, punishing your body to save your soul, but their desire to be seen as “good guys” won’t let them admit it. Ironically, even at their worst they’ll still display glimpses of compassion – Hitler was a vegetarian for example.
It’s least damaging at the philosophical perspective, though they still maintain a slight arrogance, and if you’re genuinely looking to join their cause they may suddenly abandon you! Why? They’ve already got you, time to convert the rest of the heathens!
To overcome the negative pole, priests must be made to understand that no cause is worth punishing/ killing people over, especially if all they’ve done is believe different stuff or be born in a different country. Adopting the relationship perspective is one of the hardest things a priest can do, more so when they encounter its negative pole of confusion, but once they do it they master it. At the philosophical perspective, priests really get it that people do better finding their own answers to their own problems, and they thus become more respectful, tolerant, gentle – and inspirational.