Category Archives: ‘Race’ consciousness

Why don’t ‘black’ couples show affection to each other?

This Sunday gone (21/08/2016) I went to Aunt Jean’s Afrikan Culture Market. Most of it consisted of speakers raising issues about building up the ‘black’ community*. Two of the speakers brought up something they personally witnessed: an interracial couple (‘black’ man-‘white’ woman) walking down the street, holding hands, kissing, smiling, and just unable to get enough of each other. A few seconds later came a ‘black’ couple, but according to one speaker you wouldn’t have known they were a couple. She was making sure to walk ahead of him, they weren’t holding hands, kissing, not even smiling at each other. Nothing!

* On a side note, everyone seemed to agree there was a general lack of “manly identity” among us. I’ll go into that in another post. 

According to them there’s a palpable lack of affection between ‘black’ men and women – and pride! We’re proud of not being lovey-dovey toward each other! My now ex-girlfriend confirmed exactly the same thing back in her country. It’s like Africans, men & women alike, are too tough (read: cowardly) to express genuine emotion.

This begged the question in my mind: WHY?!?!?!?!?!?!?!? Some answers came to mind.

Number 1 – Christianity. Not exactly the most affection-friendly religion out there, what with all the “original sin” and even “marital sex is a necessary evil” doctrines.

Number 2 – It doesn’t match our image of being strong. We’ve bought into the typical dichotomy of strong vs. loving, when it may be more helpful to think of loving as another expression of strength.

Number 3 – Internalisation of the stereotype of lacking emotion, especially men. Because we see it in films, TV shows, music videos (especially modern rap), Youtube vids and like so often we identify with it.

Number 4 – A lot of Africans (pre-colonial that is) come from cultures where intimacy and affection aren’t celebrated. Men and women are expected to just carry on with life as normal, perform their gender roles and done.

Number 5 – Most of us, especially the younger generations at present, don’t trust each other. Women think men are out to bang everything that moves, and men think women are constantly trying to rob the blood from their veins!

Number 6 – ‘White’ people don’t like ‘black’ affection. Deep down ‘whites’ are genuinely disgusted at the prospect of us loving each other, because it implies solidarity and any public solidarity is taken as an act of aggression. Not to mention the current media focus on interracial relationships, implying love can’t exist among our own. Many of us, again especially men, believe it.

This is why ‘black’ love really is a revolutionary act.

Number 7 – We’re English.

But all this moaning gives me a good excuse to lay on more beautiful pics!

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Especially amazing considering this!

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Warning to ‘black’ Britons

http://www.telegraph.co.uk/news/2016/06/20/jo-cox-murder-thomas-mair-makes-second-appearance-in-court/

The featured image is of the British MP & mother of 2 Joanne Cox. She was stabbed and shot by Thomas Mair, also pictured. This happened in England. They were both ‘white’ & English.

For those ‘black’ people who voted to leave the EU, guys like this are running around right now looking for a new victim. And in many of their minds you are not British.

You are the enemy.

They don’t care if you hate foreigners too. They don’t care you were born here. They don’t care how integrated you are or how you speak their language better than them. You chose to be on their side, this is what they want to do to you. Your children.

Think back to when we were in the EU. How much did it really affect us? Not much. Better, it was giving the government a bit of headache and keeping them a bit under control. Now you have given the conservatives freedom. Freedom to thrash the whip on us again. Now Cameron’s stepped down who’s going to take over?

Jeremy Corbyn?

Boris Johnson?

Nigel Farage?

Only time will tell. In the meantime, if you’re realising how we’ve all been hoodwinked do something about it. Sign petitions for a second referendum. Join local activist groups. Get politically organised.

Thomas Mair, UKIP, EDL and the like are getting bolder. Protect yourself by any means necessary.

Is feminine bad? (and other criticisms)

Continuation of Which Ancestors? (and other criticisms)

Again I’m finding conscious ‘black’ people saying stuff that sounds a bit… off-key.

 

Feminine: Recently I’ve noticed a sharp increase in the word “feminine” being used like an insult. I first noticed it in this video: Continue reading Is feminine bad? (and other criticisms)